"Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere." - Unknown
Counseling for Anxiety, Stress and Worry
Do you worry about being criticized or judged? Is it scary to speak publicly, go to parties alone, or ask for help?
So often, our anxiety, stress and fear come from a belief that there is something wrong with us. We crave close connections, but worry that people may judge us or think we are weak or too needy.
Typically, anxiety, stress, panic, phobias and PTSD are treated with medication, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or both. And for a lot of people these treatments work. But they're not effective for everyone. If you are sensitive to medication, if relaxation techniques don't calm you down for long, then you might really benefit from attachment-based therapy.
Attachment-Based Therapy for Anxiety, Stress, Shyness, Fears and PTSD (Trauma)
Healthy Attachment
In our earliest attachments, we needed to be protected, comforted, and cherished. If we received enough of these basic emotional staples, we internalized them. This means we learned to recognize safety and danger, and know how to protect ourselves with confidence. It means we learned how to recognize our own distress and know how to calm ourselves. It means we learned that we are valuable and deserving, and we know how to enjoy ourselves.
Unhealthy Attachment and Anxiety
In order to provide a healthy attachment, our parents needed to have their own healthy attachments in childhood. Sadly, a lot of really great and loving parents didn't get their own attachment needs met. If they didn't feel safe, they could not impart safety to you or teach you confidence. If they were not adequately comforted, they may not have known when you needed comforting, or how to soothe you. If they were not cherished, they might not have been able to take delight in you. If they were yelled at or abused or criticized, they may have been scary at times, instead of comforting.
Getting What You Missed
It's never too late to get what you need to feel safe and comfortable in your own skin, to let go of self-judgment, and know in your bones that you deserve peace and happiness. As an attachment-based therapist, I LOVE co-creating healing relationships. We will work at your pace, shoulder to shoulder, so you don't have to be alone with anything painful, scary or difficult. We will go on a treasure hunt, finding your untapped strengths, your ways of knowing what's right for you. As the fear and self-criticism melt away, we get to see, and feel, and delight in your joy and vitality.
Schedule Consultation
Find out if therapy can help. Call for a free 30-minute consultation: (925)335-6441 or begin the scheduling process online by clicking here: Schedule Consultation. I generally respond to inquiries and consulation requests on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays, and will contact you as soon as possible. You can also check my current availability here.
Additional Resources
Read my article on Anxiety Management
Read my article on Social Anxiety
Read about EMDR for PTSD and Trauma Recovery
Read about Hypnosis for stress relief
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