"Never cut what you can untie."
- Joseph Joubert.
Couples Counseling/Marriage Therapy
Problems in Marriage and Romantic Relationships
When you fell in love, it seemed as if the other person understood you in ways no one else ever had. You felt deeply connected and safe. But then when you shifted into marriage or deepened your commitment, perhaps when you had kids, things changed. Now you may find that you're always arguing, or one of you is emotionally withdrawn. Maybe there are sexual problems - or sex is the only thing that still works. Maybe one of you has had an affair.
How Can Therapy Help?
If you both still want the marriage (or relationship) to work, then therapy can help you understand the core issues that are getting in the way - fears of abandonment, feeling suffocated, difficulty asking for what you need directly, feeling overwhelmed by the demands of life.
Once you understand these issues it becomes apparent that the other person is doing their best to love you while also getting their own needs for safety, security and space met. Understanding core issues and knowing that you are both doing your level best makes it easier to create a safe, nurturing relationship for both of you. If you are both committed to your relationship and willing to change your own behavior (instead of getting the other one to change), then therapy can help you:
Schedule Consultation
Find out if therapy can help. Call for a free 30-minute consultation: (925)335-6441 or begin the scheduling process online by clicking here: Schedule Consultation. I generally respond to inquiries Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays and will contact you as soon as possible.
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- Joseph Joubert.
Couples Counseling/Marriage Therapy
Problems in Marriage and Romantic Relationships
When you fell in love, it seemed as if the other person understood you in ways no one else ever had. You felt deeply connected and safe. But then when you shifted into marriage or deepened your commitment, perhaps when you had kids, things changed. Now you may find that you're always arguing, or one of you is emotionally withdrawn. Maybe there are sexual problems - or sex is the only thing that still works. Maybe one of you has had an affair.
How Can Therapy Help?
If you both still want the marriage (or relationship) to work, then therapy can help you understand the core issues that are getting in the way - fears of abandonment, feeling suffocated, difficulty asking for what you need directly, feeling overwhelmed by the demands of life.
Once you understand these issues it becomes apparent that the other person is doing their best to love you while also getting their own needs for safety, security and space met. Understanding core issues and knowing that you are both doing your level best makes it easier to create a safe, nurturing relationship for both of you. If you are both committed to your relationship and willing to change your own behavior (instead of getting the other one to change), then therapy can help you:
- decrease repetitive arguing
- increase clear, kindhearted communication
- restore physical and emotional intimacy
- bring back fun and playfulness
- rebuild trust and security - especially after an affair
- and enhance feelings of love, connection and worth
Schedule Consultation
Find out if therapy can help. Call for a free 30-minute consultation: (925)335-6441 or begin the scheduling process online by clicking here: Schedule Consultation. I generally respond to inquiries Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays and will contact you as soon as possible.
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