You're smart. You're capable. You get things done. But no matter what you accomplish, you never feel good enough.

Now you're exhausted, depleted, and maybe more than a little resentful.

You long to be nurtured and supported the way you support others. But, you don't want to be needy or a burden. And, asking for what you need might feel wrong - like it doesn't count if you have to ask.

Maybe setting boundaries is hard too. You worry about disappointing others. Part of you still feels like a kid who will be "in trouble" if you're not hyper-responsible. But in showing up for everyone else, there's no time or energy to nurture yourself.

Maybe nurturing yourself feels selfish. Or worse, maybe the only way you've ever motivated yourself was through self-criticism.

I know how this feels. I grew up with a critical mother and learned to be critical of myself. I believed that if I were just a little more successful, a little thinner, a little more... perfect, I would finally feel "good enough."

But, any time I achieved some new level of self-improvement, my inner critic just raised the bar.

Then, my amazing therapist taught me how to love myself without all the conditioning my mother and my own inner critic placed on me. And I realized I had the whole equation wrong.

It's not being good enough that earns us love, acceptance, and belonging.

It's being loved for no reason at all that, ultimately, teaches us we are good enough.

In our work together, you'll learn to give yourself what you didn't get as a kid—safety, soothing, and cherishing. Through consistent practice, you develop trust in yourself, knowing you will always be firmly on your own side.

This work is grounded in attachment theory and incorporates elements from Parts Work (inner child work), mind-body therapies, EMDR, and self-compassion practices. Together, we collaborate to discover what really works for you to feel more ease, more joy, and the confidence that comes from self-trust.

I've found this approach especially helpful for people struggling with:

• Depression - Longing to feel loved and cared for
• Anxiety - Feeling unsure you can handle life's challenges
• Codependency - Giving others the care you wish they would give you
• Difficult Setting Boundaries - When guilt or fear make it hard to say "No"
• Negative Body Image - Feeling ashamed of your body
• Chronic Pain - Migraines, digestive issues, pelvic pain, and muscle/skeletal pain that doctors haven't been able to treat successfully
• Peri/Menopause - Dealing with the physical and mental challenges of "adolescence in reverse"
• Men's issues - Learning to be the partner, parent, and man you aspire to be

Let's Start With a Free Consultation

The biggest indicator of success in therapy is the connection you feel with your therapist. That's why I always offer a free 30-minute consultation. You'll get to see how I work, and I'll learn more about your history, strengths, and coping skills. From there, we'll have a better sense if my style fits your needs.