You're smart.
You're capable.
You get things done.
But no matter what you accomplish,
you never feel good enough.
Now you're exhausted, depleted,
and maybe more than a little resentful.
You long to be nurtured and supported the way you support others — but you don't want to be needy or a burden. And asking for what you need might feel wrong, like it doesn't count if you have to ask.
Maybe setting boundaries is hard too. You worry about disappointing others. Part of you still feels like a kid who will be "in trouble" if you're not hyper-responsible. But in showing up for everyone else, there's no time or energy to nurture yourself.
My Story
I know how this feels. I grew up with a critical mother and learned to be critical of myself. I believed that if I were just a little more successful, a little thinner, a little more... perfect, I would finally feel "good enough."
But any time I achieved some new level of self-improvement, my inner critic just raised the bar.
Then, my amazing therapist taught me how to love myself without all the conditioning my mother and my own inner critic placed on me. And I realized I had the whole equation wrong.
It's not being good enough that earns us love, acceptance, and belonging.
It's being loved for no reason at all that, ultimately, teaches us we are good enough.
How We Work Together
Learning to Give Yourself What You Didn't Get as a Kid
In our work together, you'll learn to give yourself safety, soothing, and cherishing — through consistent practice that builds genuine self-trust. Learn more about how I work.
Safety
Learning to recognize what doesn't feel right — and say no without guilt or shame.
Soothing
Developing the gentle self-talk and mind-body tools that help ease anxiety and depression.
Cherishing
Learning to genuinely value and delight in yourself — healing the roots of codependency.
This work is grounded in attachment theory and incorporates elements from Parts Work, mind-body therapies, EMDR, and self-compassion practices. Together, we discover what really works for you to feel more ease, more joy, and the confidence that comes from self-trust.
Specialties
I've Found This Approach Especially Helpful For:
Longing to feel loved and cared for
Feeling unsure you can handle life's challenges
Giving others the care you wish they would give you
When guilt or fear make it hard to say "No"
Feeling ashamed of your body
Migraines, digestive issues, pelvic pain, and more that doctors haven't resolved
The physical and mental challenges of "adolescence in reverse"
Learning to be the partner, parent, and man you aspire to be
Let's Start With a Free Consultation
The biggest indicator of success in therapy is the connection you feel with your therapist. That's why I always offer a free 30-minute consultation — you'll get to see how I work, and I'll learn more about your history, strengths, and goals.
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