These issues rarely show up alone — most clients recognize themselves in several. Here's a closer look at each.
Early in life you learned that love and belonging must be earned by never disappointing or burdening anyone. You discovered that being agreeable was the safest way to stay connected to those you loved and needed. In our work, you'll learn to give yourself that deep sense of security that allows you to be true to yourself, even when it means disappointing others.
Codependency often means giving others the care you long for yourself, hoping they'll learn from your example and return it in kind — especially if asking directly never worked in your family growing up. It leaves you parenting everyone around you, exhausted and still hungry to be nurtured. In our work, you'll learn to ask directly for what you need, and to see others' responses as information about their capacity in the moment — not a referendum on your worth.
If you grew up with a lot of judgment, criticism, or gossip, it makes sense that you'd believe others are always judging you — if not aloud, then behind your back. A harsh inner critic often develops to protect you from that judgment by keeping your behavior above reproach, but it only reinforces the belief that everyone's watching. Our work focuses on creating a judgment-free zone inside your own head, so you can become your own source of compassion — and find the people who are actually accepting, while walking away from anyone judgy.
Our culture makes it seem like confidence is all about having all the answers, never making mistakes, being attractive, successful, etc. But real confidence comes from feeling comfortable with all of your imperfections, knowing it's okay to be a learning, growing human — and letting go of the belief that you have to be perfectly polished to have a place at the table.
With support, you can take small, gentle risks to be your true self with others. Then, you can be in the moment, allowing yourself to fumble and recover, to reclaim joy and playfulness, and to trust that the world is rooting for you.
You've probably tried setting boundaries by asking for what you want or telling others how you feel, only to find that nothing changes. That's because whoever has the power to say “no” wins. My job is to help you discover where your power lies so that you can say no to anything that doesn't feel healthy or right for you — without overexplaining or justifying.
Boundaries are just one aspect of healthy communication. If you're like most people, you're used to talking about the people who annoy you instead of talking to them, dropping hints instead of being direct, and using shame or blame to protect yourself from feeling hurt, vulnerable, or insecure. In our work, you will find support to be honest and direct while remaining respectful and compassionate — with yourself and others.
Your inner critic developed to keep you safe — hoping that if you could just be perfect enough, you'd never be judged, criticized, or unwanted. It can feel like a monster, but really, it's a frightened inner child. Together, we can shift that perspective, so you can develop a loving adult voice within — one that soothes the fears fueling the critic, sets boundaries with great care, and helps you build a genuine, unshakable sense of self-worth.
If you hate your work, you're not alone. Maybe you chose a career too young, or to please someone else. Maybe you're hoping to prove your worth through your job without really loving it. Maybe you're replicating childhood patterns — exhausting yourself with perfectionism or hyper-responsibility. Together, we can explore work aligned with your values and purpose, not just your ability to perform, and move your inner critic to the backseat so work feels more like play than drudgery.
My superpower is teaching my clients how to heal attachment wounds by giving themselves the secure love they always needed, consistently, reliably, and with genuine affection and tenderness. Because it's not being good enough that wins us love. It's being loved for no reason at all that, finally, teaches us we are good enough.